Not trying is the worst mistake. 


I heard a voice in my head say do this the outcome would be just as you want no one would get hurt infact everyone would be happy. … And then I heard another say what if youre wrong , what if it turns out not as you want and everyone blames you for it?   

Each  voice in my head made sense but picking the devil’s voice  and the angel’s voice was the problem because apparently they had the same voice,  tone and even sincerity…. Ever been between a rock and a hard place??  Well I have hundreds of times but at the end I have to make a decision basing on the voices I heard in my head about the issue. Only after making the decision would you know the outcome. And besides that’s the reason why second chances exist. 

 They say decisions make our lives what what they are today,  it determines our fate or better yet our destiny and even that of those around us ,  so do theirs .  No one knows what is right and what is wrong , even I  myself don’t but we have to try there is a reason those voices are heard.  The fate of man is determined by whatever decisions or path he tries to avoid… So whatever voices you hear in your head may it be hissing of the devil or your guardian angel go with your guts and just do it … Trust Your instincts..  the worst mistake you can ever do is not try.  It don’t matter which voice you heard was right at the end! 


What you have Vs what you want.

Each of us has desires what we want to have may it  be cars, dream houses, certain jobs, kids, love, shoes  for those not fortunate enough just to have food and somewhere to sleep would light up their faces.  But we focus on wants and forget what we already have what life has given us presently… What we hold in our hands that can easily be snatched or worse fall and be broken …. just then would we start appreciating something what we already lost. 

Contentment doesn’t mean we forget aspiring for more and working hard to achieve your goals noo… It means that one appreciates what they have been given and this brings more blessings and your wants would flow.  Contentment means acceptance it means you no longer lustfully desire what is not yours but you are proud of what you have . Once you reach that point everyone else would see your glow they would even want to be like you , want  what you have even when you think you have nothing. If you’re not appreciating what you have then its obvious when you have what you want you’ll still not appreciate it . You would still not see the goodness in it because you never did from the beginning… Your desires were not truthful

Recognizing what you have enjoying and loving it makes it a part of us and no matter what happens or what else is added we will never loose it..may it be cars whether it was an old junk it sure did give you breakdown memories,  friends would stick as long as you treat them right those who leave don’t carry the memories along with them,  family always have your back in whatever situations and returning the favour brings them closer, work will always pay bills and keep you out of debt just do it passionately you will feel the contentment,  your kids ..  Raise them right and believe in the love you give them they will take care of you when your old and weary. But once we loose touch of all these we will never get to where we desire to be in life…. Each of us has family ,  friends,  a job,  parents or kids somewhere they are what you have and appreciating them will eventually bring what we want whatever it may be. 

At some point we may feel like we have nothing at all but love just close your eyes,  Take a deep breathe and look around you , You have the gift of life that’s a start to getting all you want aslong as you appreciate it.   :):):):)

Put yourself in their shoes.

Each event, happening incident has a learning experience ,you just have to be open minded. I had a colleague yesterday ask me to help him draft a letter asking for advance in payment, after he was done he came showed me what he had done and was on his way taking it for approval. Looking at that letter all I could think of was my dad, your parents,our parents… many times do we insist that we want this and that from them and even give them a deadline, not caring how they get the resources to do what we ask of them.


I had no idea what that colleague of mine wanted to do with that money but the look on his face, the worry in his eyes made my heart ache from the inside. He made me open my eyes, see how far our parents  are willing to go to make ends meet, how far their trust in God goes is undefined. As that man took his advance payment for approval not knowing if he would be able to pay the debt as per the deadline…. he still takes it, he still believes it would be approved , he would be able to do what he has budgeted and  even pay it when it matures.

It just goes without saying, be understanding , kind and helpful to your guardians whenever we make demands from them be it financial, physical, spiritual and even mental, lets understands that they are humans and  therefore not perfect. Gone are the days when we were little kids and believed that mom and dad had the answers  to everything , there is nothing they did not know. We grew up and realized that life never comes as easy even those born with a silver spoon have their own storms that we know nothing about. Those we love go out of their way to make us comfortable to make us go through life  hustles with a smile, they try their best to make us better people.

Tomorrow  you will be the parent and just as you are treating yours so will your kids treat you. My mom tells me whatever I do to her my kids will do the same and even multiply by 2 I normally  laugh it off but she is right…. choose wisely how you want to be treated. Be wise by being  kind and understanding to those that care about us.

And just remember that in this life, no one wants you to be successful  more than your parents do.

On that note help me wish my amazing Dad a Happy Happy Birthday

I love you Papa.







Appreciate each year’s growth!

​Hey loves, I know its been long but here I am once again. The year is almost  ending ….i know …soo fast right were getting old which is soo sad😔 . Well I do not know what each of you has been through this year but either way something happened and will still happen…. a lot can happen in three weeks you know. This year has taught me a lot of things some I cant even remember to account for but I am grateful for all. The most important thing this year taught me is that I need God in my life more than ever. Getting to where we all are is not by our might,right or desire , its by God’s favor and grace upon our lives.

 We have gone through  a lot this year , we have had  good times, bad times, moments we wish to forget and memories we cherish. As this year went by we discovered more about our purpose in this life, I am still understanding mine too, but what I know is that as we live each day, interact with people day by day whether at work ,in school, on the streets , in church ..they one way or another help us get to our purpose in this life. Everyone positioned in your life has a purpose and as they help  you so are you helping them in their life journey , no one is an island. I for one  thank every one that came to my life, those angels sent to help me during trying times you are trully appreciated,those friends and who stayed I pray you do so next year too and the years to come as for those who left I believe it was best.  Every new year comes with growth of some certain degree….embrace it.

This years some of us have gone through storms that made us loose hope ,lost faith, lost loved ones, lost opportunities, and even given up at some point , but God led us through it all He cant give you what you cant handle the storm will pass and God will be there with you through it all… next year would be a better one love. Life can never be easy , someone has to say No to you so you can learn to be independent,you need storms and enemies to succeed and enjoy your Success ,you need to be intimidated to be  courageous, people sometimes need to mock you so you can run to God, people need to disappoint you so that you can trust God alone, you need a cruel landlord so that you can learn not to be comfortable in someone else’s house and even build your own, you need to loose some people in your life to appreciate those you have , you need  to go though rough times to appreciate the good times.

 Most sometimes we are very disappointed we feel very bad and tend to remain in that spot not knowing that the end point of disappointment is the beginning of accomplishment, love , whatever you have gone through this year is just a stepping stone to something greater, make the new year a new beginning , leave the baggage behind do not carry them forward because if they did not help you this year then next year will not be any different. Next year learn to compromise but not be taken for granted,learn to take what is yours and let go what isn’t, learn to wear your accomplishments with pride,learn to trust but not be deceived,know your worth and that of others, learn to love but not be used learn to appreciate the only important curve you have which is your smile, next year love life,give people second chances, be optimistic and wear   that flawsomeness and Godfidence with the pride it deserves.

A collegue once told me , as people will be out there celebrating and counting seconds to the new year… love take a knee thank the Almighty for the blessings and write down what you want,what you need , trust me next year you will do nothing but witness those needs fulfilled… I am so trying that this year I hope you do too. 😊😊

May you have a merry merry Christmas and a blessed new year loves !

From my ♥ to yours☺☺☺

.Time to Kinky Up


Afrokinky? or Fluffykinky??

Kinky styles are one of my favorite hairstyles of all time,they keep popping up everywhere.Kinky styles have no respect of age ,your daughter can rock it as good as her grandmother….???.Be it afrokinky or fluffykinky it serves and saves you money…

Just as women need to understand that ,there will always be a main bitch,side bitch or first bitch,they should understand that kinky styles are here to stay..They were here,are here and will be here in the vision 2030….

It is amazing how kinky styles can be so forgiving……Maroon,blonde,black or your favorite colour they all work perfectly….

Here are fantastic ways to kinky up?

1.Afrokinky Curls….

#blonde no.27

#black and dark brown no.1 and 33

2.Straight afrokinky…

#black no.1

3.Fluffy kinky…



It’s finally time to kinky up because you deserve good hair every f***ing day ladies…



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Dear future best friend.

I know I’m probably too young to think  about a future best friend  (hubby) but I don’t want to overburden God with prayers about you at the rush our age 😂😂so I better say my peace now. A glimpse of a life with you is  what I hold on to when I’m lonely or sad I hold on to that last thread of hope. I decided to write so that wherever you are you’ll find all my quotes, words, read them all and know they’re all about you. You maybe two months away, fifty years away ,even already here but I’m too blind to see or possibly never happening but I’ll write anyway. 

First I’ll have to say I’m sorry for giving my heart away too many times you maybe receiving me a little bruised and bent. There are many bridges I’ve had to build others burn before I get to you so just bear with me. I’m sorry for being impatient, I know you’re not perfect the only list I made is for you to be more in love with Jesus than with me…with that He will teach you to love me perfectly though Perfection is not my forte , I don’t need you to be Michael Xavier sinfully s*xy ,or Kevin hart  funny but we must always keep humour in our lives be our crazy goofy selves  with each other I believe humor is in our DNA  😂😂. 

Just to let you know your future best friend is a hopeless romantic, these Disney movies we grew up watching spoilt us , and again my name keeps ringing romeo in everyones lips  but none actually owns the name, makes me wonder when did parents stop calling their kids romeo and why  😂😂. I pray to God for your divine protection,health and abundance. You might not be the next donald trump but I believe in humble beginnings and we’ll get there or somewhere,So take your time I have your back …. yes we will be balling hard which is totally heavenly because earth is ours to inherit. I’m not for the soap opera kind of love, I am for a home in the suburb’s, highland hikes perfect for hoodies, bonfires and lip singing ,acoustics and guitars in the wild . 

You can have as much alcohol as you want but don’t make it a part of you like morning shower, or late night coffee …please for my sake . As for womanizing and cheating , the least touched on the would know with time I’m not generous in sharing joysticks.  When it comes to family ….spend good time with them because family is everything in whatever situation….I like them already  😊. I am rooting for you even when every one seems to be against you just know that I’m out here cheering you on ….never  ever give up.  I may loose sometimes but don’t forget to let me try …..don’t always let me win either.

We once dreamed of a prince charming,but nowadays it seems we have to crawl out of that tower and find him ourselves ..if you give up  and stay in that tower you are letting him down and will never get the list he is writing to you. So I’m not giving up  I know I’ll find you someday.

I hope you  know I am trusting God to bring you in His own time. For now know I love you, I think of you and I’m praying for you. That’s all.  😊😊

But I’d love to have a soulmate

And God’ll give him to me someday

And I know it’ll be worth the wait

Cause when the time is right you’ll be here

                 Dear no one ~Tori Kelly.


​Honesty…… in the 21st century honesty is something so hard to come by. People keep covering up what they really feel as they fear being judged or called weaklings. But everyone has an honest moment every once in a while . At times honesty does not need to be said but observed.

 The look of honesty comes in different ways without one intending to show as we have no control over our emotions. When one wakes up and  they have forgotten their surrounding as they struggle figuring out where they are, that look they give is priceless. The look in someone’s eyes when they realize that they are in love ,the look between two people in love as they get lost in each others eyes. That gasp  one takes when their favorite character dies in a movie –when Augustine had to die in faults in our stars – but then you remember its just a movie and hate yourself for it.   😂😂😂😂

when they are drunk and wasted and cant help but be honest. Yes if you want to know how someone feels about something just get them drunk they will totally say it all . That moment when someone is at their breaking point and they cant hold it together anymore , all they can do is breakdown and let it all out…. That is honesty. When someone closes their eyes just to  drift somewhere in the clouds, the look when someone just stops and stares at the rainbow as they absorb its beauty, the look when someone stares at the sky and close their eyes to make a wish when they see a shooting star. The look of honesty you give a friend in an exam room and she gives you the same innocent look then you know you are both doomed …Lol. 

The look of honesty when you are really sorry for something wrong you did that your even more hurt than the one you wronged . That moment when you cant help but laugh out so loudly without caring how awful you sound. That moment when you have taken enough shit from someone so you decide to speak your mind and let every thought about them be heard in the open. Loves , life is a series of natural spontaneous changes . Don’t resist them , let reality be reality let things flow naturally in whatever way thy like thats what makes life beautiful… look around you and appreciate those honest moments. 

Love is honesty 

Honesty is happiness

Happiness is beauty! 😊😊😊😊